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Are you sending this to Trump? I would encourage you to do that, don’t just say it’s for him.

What I wish would be developed, and it probably has, I just haven’t read it, but no where are people guaranteed to have a child. I understand the longing, the pain deep within ones body to ache and desire to have a child, because I have felt that painful desire. The Lord married Adam and Eve and pronounced it good and urged them to be fruitful. But even in Holy Scripture there were women, who were barren, some for many years, even to old age, like Sarah.

“In each of the stories, the son is ultimately dedicated back to God—in service or even in sacrifice. The paradigm of the Barren Woman in the Hebrew Bible supports the Rabbinic adage that God holds the keys to birth and death (M. Taanit 3:8)—what God gives, God may take back.” (Adelman, Rachel. Jewish Women’s Archive, “Barren Women in the Bible,” 23 June 2021. https://jwa.org/encyclopedia/article/barren-women-in-the bible#:~:text=There%20are%20six%20barren%20women,of%20the%20prophet%20Elisha%20(2) That may not support my point, except I can observe that whenever the barren women took it into their hands to solve the problem by providing their husband with a surrogate wife, it always backfired.

When God charged the first married couple to be fruitful, the accomplishment of this could have happened in many different ways. Let’s look at parenthood. Yes, it could be biological children of the husband and the wife. The child may be adopted, the promising to love and care for another couple’s child, who cannot raise the child themselves, no judgement given. The child could be fostered, temporarily placed with (hopefully) a loving family, not just one in it for the state’s money, to care for a child because the parents are not able to at the moment, and might possibly be returned. Then there are families who are united by blood, such as a grandparent raising a child, or not by blood as by our families of friends, which makes it possible for many of us to survive the families given to us by blood.

Just as we need to have a successful campaign to persuade people that blood doesn’t define family, and we need to come to understand that not every couple will be able to have a biological children. It needs to be easier and not cost the same as the mortgage of a house to adopt a child. And there are plenty of children who desperately need families, if it was accessible and reasonably priced. Would everyone be able to adopt an infant? Only if we cease to murder all the abides in the womb, so no. But there are plenty of toddlers, pre-schools, and teenagers who really, really need a permanent family, not just a family that will “catch and release” them at 18 years of age. How many children are mature enough to navigate the world without a family at 18 years of age? The foster system should at least maintain supervision of children until age 21, and there’s plenty of scientific proof that we’re not truly, biologically in our craniums mature until 25.

And there is the whole realm of spiritual motherhood and fatherhood, exemplified by millions of people in our past, in our modern age, and will be in our future. Schoolteachers, Boy Scout Troop leaders, Sunday School teachers, all of the Saints, pastors, priests, deacons, need I list more? We all have the opportunity to be spiritual parents to someone else, and this is not enough applauded nor discussed. There are so many ways for a person to become a parent that we shouldn’t get hung up on the biological possibility as the only option or choice.

Who can lead the discussion on this: Holy Mother Church. Who can foster a movement to change people’s minds: Holy Mother Church. Who can get the discussion started at our parishes and churches: us. Even more specifically, writers like you and me by emailing and talking to the Religious Education Director and Committee and our pastors at our parishes. Some, like you, have the proven track record of writing and publishing books. The very least that I can do is motivate by my evanagilizing at places like Substack and by writing articles for diocesan newspapers, which I have a small track record of publishing.

We can change the narrative. We can start a grass roots movement to change people’s ideas, while also providing persuasive teaching about the evils and the cruelty of the whole fertility medicine specialty. From the very beginning someone should have asked: just because we can do this, should it be done?

You, my friend, are far too easy to talk to, and are an amazing listener! And back to my original question: are you sending this to Trump? I encourage you to do so.

Peace🕊️

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